Wednesday, July 8, 2015
I decided to write about this quote because it hit me close to home. In the past, I have had arguments or debates about things trying to prove a point or prove something. Usually the point is to prove that person wrong. What I have learned especially with being a new mom and wife, that really it isn't about being right all the time.
The truth is, is that everyone is going to have an opinion. Nobody is right or wrong so that debate is one you will never win!
Sometimes people get so caught up in being right all the time, that they forget everyone is entitled to their own opinion and their way is likely not the only way. I know I am guilty of this, as well as probably every other person on this earth. But before thinking you are right all the time, take time to listen. Take time to really hear what the other person is saying. You may actually learn a valuable lesson from it.
A while back I had a post on my Facebook about a dress code violation at this students school and she was kicked out of the dance for exposing her shoulders. I was completely livid about this. To think that my daughter could be shamed one day for showing off her shoulders was appalling to me. I proceeded to comment about how angry it made me, and never once had an open mind to anyone else opinion.
Not only do I very much regret posting such strong opinions on my social media page, but I didn't give anyone else very much room to feel like they had a right to their opinion. Sometimes I am too proud. This quote has really opened my eyes to the fact that not everyone thinks the way I do. And yes I may not agree with their opinion or life decisions, it is not my place to judge and I really should consider being more open minded.
I hope after reading this you all think a little bit harder before trying to "Prove someone wrong" or think "My way is the only way" that you realize there is always two sides to every story and you should really try and have more of an open mind towards all people.
Thank you for reading. I hope you're enjoying my blogs!
Monday, July 6, 2015
Recently I saw a facebook post asking what eveyones view was on people who cheat. It apauled me at how judgemental people are. Most of them were very rude about the topic, and haven't even experienced it themself on either end. To me, that is ignorant.
To sit there and say "I would never cheat" or "If I was cheated on I would be done." is truly very ignorant. You have no idea what you would do until you're actually in it. I do believe that cheating is wrong, but I also believe in forgiveness. If God can forgive then why can't we? We are all sinners no matter how great the sin.
Another thing it brings to mind is do you know either persons reality on either end of it? No. I don't know why this world has become such a judgemental place. What would Jesus do? He certainly would forgive and people need to be conscious of that before they open their opinions to the world on the matter.
Let me just say there is never any excuse to cheat, but there is more to the story than you even know. There are usually things that lead up to that happening, or the person is just a psychopath. I do believe change can happen, and I do believe that some can't. However, it's not my place to share my thoughts on it, or judge, when I am not a part of that relationship!
If you and your significant other or spouse are going through something like this it can be healed and trust can be regained. I have seen it happen. I also know there is research to back up that couples who go through this and stay together end up stronger and happier than those that don't. I'm not saying I recommend you do it by any means. It is a pretty shattering thing.
Those are just some things to think about the next time you or anyone else starts to judge someone else on this topic or anything else for that matter. Are they or you without sin? He who is without sin, cast the first stone. If you're not familiar with that story from the bible you should definitely look into it. Especially if your relationship is suffering from infedility.
Life is way to short. Forgive, judge noone, and love as hard as you can!
Friday, July 3, 2015
I've learned that I can love with my whole entire heart, mind, body, and soul. I love my daughter so much sometimes it hurts! I'm sure any mother could relate to that feeling though. The way she gazes into my eyes as I feed her, watching her grow and change everyday, and knowing it is my birthright to love her, watch over her, and love her unconditionally no matter what.
I've learned just how precious life is and that material possessions at the end of the day are not what matter. At the beginning of my childs life she had a very rough start in this world. We were both very sick, and honestly very lucky and blessed to still be here today. Put down your phone, turn off the TV, and pay attention to your kids!!! It goes by in a blink and you don't wanna miss all the amazing things that come along with parenthood.
Patience. I have learned so much more patience then I ever had before. Sometimes it can be hard, I have learned it is okay to have a hard day, and it is okay to cry, and still come out of it even stronger for my daughter. She needs my example and patience is important in so many areas of life.
Growing up has been a huge thing also. Being a parent requires adult decisions and behavoirs and I wouldn't be who or where I am today without my beautiful little girl. She guides every single decision I make and makes me the best person I can be.
Having a child changes your whole perspective on life as a whole for the better. Hold on tight to every single moment you have with your babies. As cliche' as it sounds, life is so precious and we only get one shot. So make memories and cherish every single moment you have.