Being a Twin

Everyone always asks me "What is it like being a twin?" or "Do you like being a twin?"
My response is usually something along the lines of. "It isn't too different from any other sibling, were just best friends." Which is true on some levels. But it is so much more then that. I DO have a best friend for life, but I also couldn't even imagine my life without her in it. I know she can feel what I am feeling, and the same goes for me.

We share a passion for singing, and being creative. But we are for the most part, very different in the type of people we are. Even though we are so different, I still feel so close to her. Even if we spend a lot of time apart. As I have grown up I have realized how precious our relationship really is. We used to fight 24/7. But now that were grown we have so much more respect for one another.

She is such a giving, loving, and creative soul. I really wouldn't be who I am today without her. We are the same age, but sometimes I feel like she is my bigger sister and role model. Whenever I am down I can count on her to cheer me up and send me in the right direction.

I love you so much Joda!

Expectation Is The Root Of All Heartache

Have you ever expected something, whether it be small or big, and when it doesn't happen you are completely devastated, pissed off, or annoyed? I know I have that is for sure.

You have to realize, that things in life almost never play out exactly how you hope them to. Sometimes you have to just go with the flow of things, and let life help things fall into place. If you have lower expectations the less likely you are to be hurt. I have learned this a lot, but it how do you actually achieve it? I know this is easier said then done. Because, I struggle with it all the time.

I honestly believe the true key is to keep your expectations low. People are not perfect, they also do not have the same agenda, or way of doing things that you may do. Keeping an open mind, doing what you need to do, and going with the flow will save a lot of frustration. Life is really too short to be upset about this things.

Also, if someone is continually not exceeding your expectation, you should number one; tell them what your expectations are. We are not mind readers as people, man or woman. Number two, just accept the fact of your differences and do what you need to do for yourself. You will be surprised and how much happier you will be. If someone is intentionally letting you down, and it is obvious. Maybe it is time to question if they should be in your life at all.

I am not really sure what compelled me to write this. I do know that if I feel like things didn't go the way I hoped them to. This is with really anything in life. I have to remind myself of these things. Sometimes it is not always good to over analyze things. I hope maybe I can help make light of your frustrations on this matter and you can grow to be stronger too, like I have.

Life life, love yourself, and don't have high expectations for everyone else. Keep those for yourself, because you are worth it!