Sunday, November 17, 2013

Being a Twin

Everyone always asks me "What is it like being a twin?" or "Do you like being a twin?"
My response is usually something along the lines of. "It isn't too different from any other sibling, were just best friends." Which is true on some levels. But it is so much more then that. I DO have a best friend for life, but I also couldn't even imagine my life without her in it. I know she can feel what I am feeling, and the same goes for me.

We share a passion for singing, and being creative. But we are for the most part, very different in the type of people we are. Even though we are so different, I still feel so close to her. Even if we spend a lot of time apart. As I have grown up I have realized how precious our relationship really is. We used to fight 24/7. But now that were grown we have so much more respect for one another.

She is such a giving, loving, and creative soul. I really wouldn't be who I am today without her. We are the same age, but sometimes I feel like she is my bigger sister and role model. Whenever I am down I can count on her to cheer me up and send me in the right direction.

I love you so much Joda!

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Expectation Is The Root Of All Heartache

Have you ever expected something, whether it be small or big, and when it doesn't happen you are completely devastated, pissed off, or annoyed? I know I have that is for sure.

You have to realize, that things in life almost never play out exactly how you hope them to. Sometimes you have to just go with the flow of things, and let life help things fall into place. If you have lower expectations the less likely you are to be hurt. I have learned this a lot, but it how do you actually achieve it? I know this is easier said then done. Because, I struggle with it all the time.

I honestly believe the true key is to keep your expectations low. People are not perfect, they also do not have the same agenda, or way of doing things that you may do. Keeping an open mind, doing what you need to do, and going with the flow will save a lot of frustration. Life is really too short to be upset about this things.

Also, if someone is continually not exceeding your expectation, you should number one; tell them what your expectations are. We are not mind readers as people, man or woman. Number two, just accept the fact of your differences and do what you need to do for yourself. You will be surprised and how much happier you will be. If someone is intentionally letting you down, and it is obvious. Maybe it is time to question if they should be in your life at all.

I am not really sure what compelled me to write this. I do know that if I feel like things didn't go the way I hoped them to. This is with really anything in life. I have to remind myself of these things. Sometimes it is not always good to over analyze things. I hope maybe I can help make light of your frustrations on this matter and you can grow to be stronger too, like I have.

Life life, love yourself, and don't have high expectations for everyone else. Keep those for yourself, because you are worth it!

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Loving yourself, true beauty, and the wandering eye.

Well to start off, I may not be a size zero but I am a gorgeous woman regardless. Beauty isn't about appearance. That is only a part of it. Sometimes I wish that people could stop thinking with the wrong head instead for a few minutes. Lets just come to reality people, not all women look like Porn Stars in the real world. Since that is the demographic that a lot of guys are looking for it seems, it is pretty disheartening. Do you think that this doesn't hurt our feelings?

Granted, I am not going to sit here and say that I am perfect. I definitely think that Jax Teller from Sons Of Anarchy is the hottest guy ever. Having said that, I am not really looking for a man like that in the real world. It is not because I believe I couldn't get a man like that, but I actually prefer men who have quarks and are not considered "Perfect" like the media makes everyone believe. The reason I say this is because beauty really isn't skin deep. There is so much more to a person.

When I find a man that I am attracted to, this includes the appearance and personality, whole package. I am not concerned about telling other men how good they look. I do not have a wandering eye, and if you ever start to feel like you are complimenting other women or men on their sexy looks when you have claimed to like someone, then please have a heart to heart with yourself. It is important to be an honest person, and when it comes down to it even more important to be honest with yourself.

I think that looking is okay. This is human nature, I wouldn't expect anyone with hormones to not be attracted to the opposite sex, or even same sex for that matter. The difference is, is that if it is not acted upon then what is the actual problem? There is none. This man or woman you are with, will be coming home to you every night. This has to say something. But people are so afraid of the truth, and so afraid of actually coming to terms with themselves and what they want. Like my dad has always said, people always trade what they want for the moment for what they want long term.

I love who I am and the saying is true that "If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."  I personally just believe that if you are not crazy about the woman or man that you are with, then you probably shouldn't be with them. Not only that, but how in the world could a woman or man be themselves when they are worrying about matching up to these people that you are wandering to?

I have grown so much, and I am such a strong woman in my life today. I know what I deserve and I am truly to the point where I will not accept anything less. I have to be realistic. Even though I am a hopeless romantic, the world has proven to me that you can think one thing, and something completely different is about to happen. I think a lot of men and women could relate to this, so I thought I would share.

Please remember that this article is not bashing on any type of woman. We are all beautiful, this is about people not being true to what they want, or just not being honest about it. I also think that beauty comes in so many different forms. But what about what is in their hearts? Their stories? You would be very surprised how crazy you can be about someone even if they are not up to "Perfect" standards. If you love yourself, everything falls into place. This is the truth in life and if you keep a positive attitude, you can have a life you always dreamed of having. Thank you for reading.